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March 18, 2014

time to slow down

I feel like I'm in a rush a lot.

With the everything from getting the twins up and running (and running and running), driving them to daycare, driving an hour to - and then from - work, getting home, making dinner if Husband hasn't done it already, playing with the boys for anywhere from 5-20 minutes depending on how long it's taken them to eat said dinner or if it's bath night, and finally doing our night night ritual to put them to bed.

I always feel like we're on a schedule.  And, to be honest, we are.  A lot of parents of infants, and especially twins, know that a schedule is KEY to those first few months - really the first year - of their lives.  You are already feeding and burping and changing a baby all the time that if they get off schedule from each other there is literally no time for anything else ever.  ever.


Keeping the boys on a schedule was key to our sanity.  And, it's really stuck.  It works best for us if they get to bed at a reasonable time, 6:30-7, in order to have enough rest for their 6am wake-up - and to give mom and dad a little adult time in the evenings.  


Because of this, I feel like we are in a rush - a long fast slide into bed from the moment we get home.  If there are any bumps along the way, they seem to carry over in to the next thing and the next thing and the next thing.  

A few nights ago, we were all playing downstairs and it was time to go upstairs for bed time.  The boys' play area is downstairs and we like to keep all their toys there so we don't have toys strewn all over the house (I know what you're thinking - you have kids, of course you're going to have toys all over the house.  Why even try? We just like to operate under the illusion that that isn't the case - the toy part, not the kid part.  Just go with me on this one).  Holt had been playing in the one cabinet in the kitchen that isn't childproofed and had taken out a water bottle with a hard plastic straw and was carrying them around.  

We usually have a hard time getting the boys to put down whatever it is that they are playing with to go upstairs to start getting ready for bed.  I was already anticipating crying and pouting and snatching (and was panicking about the schedule and the minutes that were slipping away).  

I asked Holt where he wanted to put the cup and straw (a trick I've learned to get them to do something I want).  He said, "KITCHEN!"  And ran back to the kitchen to put the cup and straw back.  He also, having inherited the cleanliness gene from Husband, began putting back all the cups and straws and tupperware that he had gotten out.  I started to say to him that he didn't have to clean up, mommy would do it, let's go upstairs, go go go.  He stood up, locked eyes with me, and stayed that way for a moment and then went back to cleaning, all the while singing our clean up song.  It was as if that look said, "Mommy, I'm finishing what I started.  Chillax.  It will take 2 minutes."  And that look was right.  I sat there and watched him pick up every last piece on the floor and put it back in the cabinet.  I realized it took two more minutes for my two year old to give me a moment of clarity and quiet - while he was AWAKE no less!   


So here's to taking two more minutes out of my day to watch in amazement as my kid cleans up a mess he's made and one that he should be cleaning up anyway to sit and not rush and listen to the quiet moments.




6 comments:

  1. And it's so hard to let those moments happen...especially when you're schedule driven, isn't it?! I'm a big schedule person as well...and have been learning myself to let go and "chillax" and you said. You're a great momma!

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    1. Thank you! It is SO HARD to deviate from the schedule. We're working on it, haha!

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  2. So sweet. :) Also, love the new design!

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    1. Thanks friend! It's still a work in progress, but I'm liking it a lot.

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  3. I'm visiting from Dancing with Ashley, and I just want to thank you for your words! I don't have kids yet, but these little reminders to slow down are sweet to my soul. Great start to my day! Thanks again.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Anne. So glad to have you!

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